Ultimate Guide to be the Best Mom Ever!

Being the Best Mom Ever!

Hello gorgeous mom! I’m so happy and grateful you are here. Since you are here, I am assuming that you are looking for some inspiration, a confidence boost, an acknowledgment that you are not alone, or maybe in need of some help. If so, you are on the right page. This is my “Ultimate Guide to be the Best Mom Ever!”. I have attended many masterclasses and seminars and I read books to become a better mom, change my life, have family harmony, and be happy. I want to share what I have learned so that maybe it can be your turn to become the best move ever!

Why is striving to be the best mom important?

Have you ever asked yourself if you are a good enough mom? What does it mean to be the best mom ever? What about just being a happy mom?

Almost every day, I connect with other moms and I love it! I learn something new every single time because we are so different. And that’s ok! Unfortunately, even the best of us get physically and mentally tired from taking care of the family, housework, and everything else we moms do day in and day out. I have never heard another mom confidently say that they are “the best mom ever.”

I always strive to be “the best mom ever” but there is often a little voice in the back of my mind asking the question “Am I a good enough mother?” This voice always gets louder at times of low confidence, or after long, tiresome days, or after one or more of my children have been fussy all day. But being a good mom means that you need to release your inner critic. No mother should ever compare herself to any other parent. Just like children, no two mothers are alike and each parenting style has its place.

How to start becoming the Best Mom Ever?

Before starting, I highly recommend you understand yourself and how you interact with the world around you and thus, how you interact with your children. For this point, my suggestion is to first read the book 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do: Take Back your Power, Embrace Change, Face your Fears, and Train Your Brain for Happiness and Success by Amy Morin. This book is like the light at the end of a dark tunnel. Here is a link to the book on Amazon.

Otherwise, all that you need to get started is the willingness to improve, patience, persistence, and time. And, of course, you should follow the tips I provide in my “Ultimate Guide to be the Best Mom Ever”.

My tips for becoming the Best Mom Ever!

If you have ever felt like you are doing something wrong as a mother because your children are behaving, don’t worry, you are not alone. All mothers feel this way from time to time. I haven’t always had a smooth journey with my children either. The trick is to learn from our experiences, repeat the good ones, and avoid the negative ones. So let’s take a look at the best ways to build relationships with your children.

There are thousands of ways to be the best mom, but I have narrowed down my “Ultimate Guide to be the Best Mom Ever” to what I believe are the 5 ways that are most impactful and work the best.

1. Love

 

Love is truly magic. I am sure that you say “I love you!” to your children, but do your children really know and believe that you love them? How often you tell your children that you love them is important. When you tell your children that you love them is important (especially when they are in trouble for misbehaving). Explaining to your children why you love them and what it means to love someone is also very important.

Did you know that there are 5 ways children show and understand love? Children (and adults) show and express love through words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, gifts, or quality time. Spend time determining how your children express love (probably different for each child) and then make the effort to show them your love in the manner they understand. If your children know you love them, you are the best mom ever!

2. Trust

 

This is a three-way connection between you, God, and your children. Children need to feel safe and only you can help them to feel this. Children naturally and instinctively trust their parents when they are babies and small children. However, as children get older, trust has to be continually earned – children need to earn the trust of their parents and parents will need to earn the trust of their children, especially in the teenage years. Trust God and trust your intuition. Believe in God and believe in yourself. If you do these two things, your children will trust and believe in you too. With God everything is possible!

3. Imperfection

 

The do-everything Super-Mom has become very popular, especially on social media. After scrolling through social media, have you ever worried that "I am not a perfect mom!" I have, as have most mothers. So don't worry, you are not alone. You need to remember that no one is perfect and what you see on social media is often rehearsed and acted out to show the best possible image. Our kids do not need a perfect mom. They need a mother who is loving and engaged with them. If you do something wrong like lose your temper, apologize to your kids. We all make mistakes - acknowledge them and learn from them. Just don’t give up. Keep moving forward and be a great example for your kids.

4. Support

 

There is no magic wand that parents can use to shield their children from all the negative things that may come their way. Our goal as parents is to help and support our children to work through any issues or problems they may face so that they may learn from the experience or any mistakes they may have made.

 

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A personal example of support

The Problem

I noticed something different about my 7-year-old’s behavior when she was in the middle of 2nd Grade. She was so quiet and so sad and she didn’t want to tell me what was wrong. We even received a letter from her teacher explaining that our daughter was having a difficult time in class. She was not being responsive to any questions asked of her but there was no explanation as to why.

The Solution

At that time, I saw an advertisement for a children’s book called I Can Believe in Myself by Jack Canfield and Miriam Laundry. I ordered the book and we read it together after it was delivered. My daughter was happy to have my full attention and she started talking about school and herself. She said that she felt like the main character in the book who was too shy and too scared to speak in front of the class. This was a big hint for me. Now I understood everything that was going on. As in the book, we did a project together where we decorated a shoe box as a “shredder” that would “eat” all the bad feelings and problems we had written paper and make them disappear.

 

I Can Believe in Myself

 

 

Interested in getting this book? Click on the image of the book or this link and it will take you to Amazon where you can order it.

The Result

After this exercise, my daughter was back to her happy self. I even received a phone call from her teacher who was excited about my daughter’s change of attitude and curious as to what magic I performed. After explaining everything, the teacher asked to borrow the book to share with the class and my daughter did a “show-and-tell” in front of the class explaining how to use her “shredder”. Believe it or not, a few months later my daughter insisted on attending a modeling & talent show called IMTA where she performed her “shredder” routine in front of hundreds of people for one of her twelve competitions. In the end, she was so proud of herself for receiving several top 10 and honorable mention awards in her competitions. I was mutually proud of her for overcoming her fears and being brave.

 

What is the moral of my daughter’s story? It is to help and support your child through their struggles, even if it just doing a silly shredder project with them. Giving your full attention and guidance will make you the best mom ever in your child’s eyes.

5. Traditions, Memories, & Time

 

Have you ever asked yourself, "What will my children remember about their childhood after they grow up?" Live, Laugh, Love - you may have decorations in your house, if not, I am sure you have heard these three magical words! These are magical words because if we practice living in the present moment, and teach our children to love themselves and others around us, we truly can live a happy life!

This is easy to do! All you need to do is turn off the TV, turn off tablets, and spend time with them and give them your attention. Start a new family tradition of baking every Sunday afternoon. Read books together. Paint and color together. Play games (chess, cards, playing catch, tennis, etc.) together. Hiking or walking as a family. There are many simple and easy ways to spend time with your children so they will have many wonderful lifetime memories! Just spending time and giving undivided attention to your children will make you the best mom ever!

How to know you are a Great Mom?

I am sure that you know motherhood is not easy, but it can also be the best time even beyond your imagination. There are reminders everywhere that you are a great mom! For me, the compliments from the neighbors about my well-behaved children or what a great parent I am is a not-so-subtle reminder. The joy I get when my children are excited and run to greet me when I come home from running errands is a reminder that I am the best mom for my children. A simple “Great job!” text from my husband after he watches a video of me teaching our children is a great confidence boost!

This concludes my “Ultimate Guide to be the Best Mom Ever!” I hope you found it informative and useful. Have questions? Look below in the frequently asked question section. You may find your answer. If not, please feel free to email me at [email protected] with any questions or comments.

Frequently Asked Questions

The last thing to remember

Being a good mom means that you release your inner critic…don’t be too hard on yourself for making mistakes. No one is perfect. Don’t compare yourself to other moms or other families as everyone has different circumstances. Just like children, no two mothers are alike, and each parenting style has its place. As I have repeated many times in this “Ultimate Guide to be the Best Mom Ever!” post, as long as you continually strive to improve yourself and your relationship with your children, you will be the best mom ever!